BENJAMIN HEY!

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Intention

Happy New Year!!

2017 has just begun. Whenever the new year hits I always look at it as "back to school" time. What do I want to accomplish in the form of life goals and dreams?  What material items do I want that I hope will add value to my life? Where do I want to travel? And most importantly....what will my New Years' Resolution be? 

Last year, I think my resolution may have been to listen more or take more risks. I took a big one in letting go of work and people that didn't feed my soul. That risk led me to reclaiming my music passion and spending more time in Los Angeles. This year I will be building on that. Not by running myself ragged like a machine (in the rat race that we New Yorkers become used to) and listening to every human being with an opinion of who I should be & what they think I should be doing.

I will be focusing inward towards my God given spiritual connection and setting an intention with my thoughts, beliefs and actions and trust that I will be taken care of.

The word intention is a noun that means..a thing intended; an aim or plan. An intention is focused like a laser, it is centered, it is steady and it is forward moving.

This morning I made the time to watch a powerful speech given by Oprah at the Essence Festival. In this speech about empowerment, she mentioned the word intention. She spoke about setting the intention for all the future episodes of her talk show after an episode where she "unintentionally" gave KKK members a platform to express their hate towards others.

She decided that the direction of her show had to change. She would now set an intention of helping others be their best selves and providing platforms and information to make that happen. That move was risky but she trusted a higher source/God/universe with that intention. The rest is history....25 years of being #1 on tv, a cable network owner and powerful brand in media.

That led me to thinking about my intention. What is my intention? I had to dig deep and go back to my childhood. Growing up in the projects in Brooklyn I was exposed to chaos in my home and environment due to my Dad's alcoholism, the crack epidemic and gun violence. These things were traumatic in many ways. But what got me through was my God given imagination, hopes, dreams and my creativity. Deep down inside...I knew that there was more than the fighting inside my household, the brick buildings outside my window and the hopelessness that was in the air.

I knew I had to make it out or I would die.

I would stare out the window..through the metal bars and one day I got this feeling that I guess one would call hope. It was a feeling of "there's something else...there's something better" and it got me through that existence.

When I would turn on the radio and hear songs of my favorite artists like Michael Jackson...that hope would increase. I loved the feeling that music would give me. It was comforting, soothing and the opposite of what I heard around me. I needed something healing to conquer the sound of breaking objects and gun shots. When I would turn on the tv and see Aaron Spelling shows like Dynasty and 90210.... I could see landscapes and environments that looked nothing like mine. It wasn't anything like my reality. It was fantasy of course....but it affected me and I connected to it. My exposure to entertainment in the form of music, tv and film... were like seeds being planted. It became...like MJ said.... "another part of me."

My aim is to continue watering and nourishing those seeds. I will continue to strengthen my creative craft. I will do it to nudge others towards the feeling of there being "something else....something better." With my creativity, I hope to inspire someone else to go after their dreams and hold on to it through all the noise and chaos of the world. When they're listening to my music or watching me on the screen, I hope that they will see that it's possible for them to succeed/overcome/prosper any adversity. 

Like the words of one of my favorite rock songs by Boston...it's "more than a feeling" it's a path towards an intention. And I'm on it!

This is message is brought to you by Benjamin Hey! - leader of the "#Hey!Team"

 

Remix Your Life

#Hey!Team,

Happy Holidays! As the year comes towards a close, I reflect on 2016 and think about what I want to achieve for 2017. More travels...... more creative opportunities in music, tv and film....... stronger health....spiritually, physically and mentally. A bank account that spells OOOOOOOO lol. These are a few of the areas I want to see grow in my life so I put my desires out in the universe and let it go.

But wait... Before I "let it go" I ask myself what stands in the way of my achieving the desired results. What am I willing to change? 

First let me say that I have a blessed life. Family, friends, love, good health, zero debt, a roof over my head, food in the fridge, strong spiritual connection to a loving God....... I'm happy with a glass full perspective and I'm grateful for my life. But I'd be lying if I didn't tell you the truth.

I want more. 

I never want to be "comfortable" or "boring." I want to continue to have new experiences. Meet new people. Expand my creativity. Connect to others on a deeper level through service. I want to allow myself to keep growing and expanding in all ways. 

To not be "comfortable".... I'm willing to "remix my life."

Simple ways I can remix my life:

 Take a new route to work.

Eat at a new restaurant.

Get a new haircut (I'm obsessed with changing my hair while I have it lol).

Learning a different language or accent.

Create with new people.

Change all my routines and patterns in every aspect of my life including work, play, sex etc.

Basically if you want a different result in life.... you have to do some things differently. Change comes with taking risks.... small and large. That's what life is about! Spontaneity....newness and change. 

In conclusion, if you're "comfortable" or "bored" with your life....REMIX it!! Your life will never sound the same.

-This message has been brought by Benjamin Hey! leader of the #Hey!Team

 

Deadline for takeoff is Jan 1st, 2017

Deadline for takeoff is Jan 1st, 2017

 

 

Mental Real Estate

#Hey!Team,

I want to talk about mental real estate

As I get older I realize that my brain power is strongest when my mental real estate is strong. For so many years I took in information that clouded my brain with toxicity and vagueness and it had me feeling robotic. Every day felt like Groundhog Day....a boring repetition of the same. It was as if I was walking through life with an Instagram filter over my eyes. News outlets, reality tv (my guilty pleasure), violent movies & porn would leave an imprint on my brain which lasted longer than I would like to admit. It was hard for me to be present because I was stuck in my head or stuck in the past.

When I got the awareness of what was clouding me, I began to take a step back and what happened after was remarkable! It was like... I pressed a reset button in my head. My creativity exploded. Songs, scripts, characters and ideas would download into my brain regularly. My curiosity was childlike. My energy increased and most of all my mental real estate improved.

My mind is an expensive piece of land lol. Do I want something or someone, that adds no value to my life, to have my full, undivided, attention? Hell no! Are you obsessing about a person or a circumstance you can't change? If the answer is yes, then that means in those moments you have been losing valuable real estate in your mind. Do you think that person or circumstance is obsessing over you? Probably not. And what did you gain? .....Maybe stress, annoyance, frustration and pain.

When you catch yourself giving away mental real estate..like that holiday re-gift you don't want....do these exercises:

 Look down at your feet.

Ask yourself what color shoes are you wearing?

What clothes are you wearing?

Where are you sitting/standing?

What's the date?

What day is it?

What's in front of you right now? Etc.

While you're answering these questions..... you are actually getting your mind PRESENT.  You just gave yourself a gift! You won't be able to answer the above questions and obsess over bullshit at the same time. You're welcome! You also gave yourself an opportunity to improve your mental real estate.

In conclusion, when you find yourself giving away valuable mental real estate....start sending up eviction notices!

This message has been brought to you by BENJAMIN HEY! - leader of the #Hey!Team

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STOP!

Often in my life I've felt restricted or limited by phrases that begin with "you can't." It's something I've heard often in my childhood. I didn't realize the harm of those words. Those phrases were formed from someone else's fear projection and their own limiting beliefs. As a child I wanted to explore and take risks but was shut down many times by authority figures, guardians etc. That oppression left me hesitant, fearful and ignorant of my true capabilities.

All the pursuits in my life from entertainment, fitness, philanthropy, romantic love and adventure...all have a high degree of risk. Every time I go on an audition there's the risk that I'm gonna drop my lines or get flat out rejected. Every time I sing there's a chance that I'm going to forget the words or hit a bad note. In my songwriting....maybe write a song that no one connects to or is illogical. When I work out there's a chance I might injure myself or someone else. When I'm doing a charitable deed there's a chance that I might leave someone out or not meet a goal. My partner might not be available for sex or our connection might not feel as strong in the moment. But what if......all these pursuits go in my favor?

Sometimes I need a reminder of who I am. I talk to God on a daily basis. A God of my understanding, a loving, supportive, generous and kind God. I had to fire the fear based, punitive and mean God that the authority figures lauded over me when I wasn't being the "good boy" or had an imagination beyond their capacity. I now have the encouragement that I need to take risks and go after the abundant life I desire. When I forget who I am....God gives me the reminder that I'm Benjamin Hey! He tells me that the opinions of others don't matter.  It's no one's business. I then take a pause and look at all of the evidence around me. Out of a million swimmers...I reached the egg. Every hardship that has come my way..I've been brought through. Even when I didn't think things would work out of for me....things worked out. My perspective is that I've already won at life. I was put on this earth to pursue my dreams and now I'm doing it without hesitation. I would love in my lifetime to have a Billboard Hot 100 #1 credit as an artist/songwriter but that's not in my control. What is in my control is the thoughts that I listen to. The biggest lesson I'm learning is that when I have limits on my beliefs and when I listen to limiting language...chances are my results will be limited. Today I'm swinging the pendulum in the opposite direction. I'm expecting my dream to come to fruition in a God sized way. 

I made the decision to throw out beliefs/thoughts/rules that don't work for me. "You can't....you won't & you're not supposed to" phrases are fading fast from my vocabulary. When they enter into my psyche I say the word "STOP!" Then I come back with proof that that thought is false. You're a black man from the hood...you're not gonna go far. STOP I've made it out the hood and I'm a black College grad with my own business and I'm debt free! You're divorced.....you're not gonna have love.... STOP! I'm in a 4+ year loving relationship with my guy ; ) You're too old...you can't....blah blah blah blah STOP! Age doesn't mean shit these daysNobody cares what you have to say. STOP! People are reading this now, following me on social media, engaging etc. 

You see where I'm going with this? Whatever the "you can't" is attached to in your head...go combat those thoughts with a "STOP!" and then offer yourself proof that you can and you will. We all have evidence we can. It's right in front of our face if we look hard enough. If you follow along my journey hopefully I can inspire you to throw out the thoughts/rules/beliefs that no longer serve your life! 

 - Benjamin Hey!....Leader of The Hey!Team

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